Tips for The Average Joe
While most people in relationships still find their partners attractive, they are not in a healthy relationship. These rose-tainted glasses have led to many people staying in the unhealthy relationship. Here are signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship, and hindering yourself from finding what you truly deserve.
The control with kindness is probably the best place to start as this is one of the most indirect signs that your relationship is unhealthy. Many people think that manipulation comes from violence and fear but the truth is that there rea partners that will root out your weakness and use them as a mean to control you. Whether or not they are the source of your happiness, the best partners will make sure that you are better and happy. The next one is the emotional blame where they claim that you are making a big deal over small matters, claim that you are exaggerating things and also too sensitive. These partners will never want you to have your own feeling and may even deflect whenever that there is a problem and you want to discuss it.
Clingy coddling, as many people may not know, is never a sign of love and the partners may be even manipulation you. There are those that will even use guilt to control you, like say making you feel guilty for being with friends and family, which in turn leads to isolation and you being too dependent on their company.
There are also the ones that have the unspoken standards. If your partner is trying to change you by trying to convince you that they know what is best, what you want and need then you should consider that an unhealthy relationship. If they express issues with their other pats relationship, then this is also a sign. There are partners that instead of supporting your goals, they are so hell-bent on sabotaging your success so that you can depend on them.
If your partners have a short fuse, then this is a sign that you are in an unhealthy relationship. The fighting and the arguing may seem petty at first but maybe future blow-ups and if you cannot solve these like adults then this will also be a recipe for relationship strains. There is a difference between someone needing you and actually loving you, and this is where the emotional manipulation comes in. Healthy relationship usually have two things in common and that is trust and the power balance. If you are in a relationship with one or more of these telltales, it means that you should start looking for better.
